14 weeks 4 days and people who don’t like babies that much
J.Le had a checkup this morning and the Twinkle is doing well.
Dr.Doodle said that there are studies that show foetuses thrive in stressful situations. She also said not to test this theory where possible, but when stress is inevitable, then everything’s going to be ok.
There is a print-out from the ultrasound that I have been studying. I thought I spotted a penis, or at least two legs and a shadow, but was then reminded of the umbilical cord. I had somehow forgotten about that during my penis-spotting frenzy. So more waiting before we know whether we’re having an Arthur or a Martha. (I kind of knew that already, but I am the person under the Christmas tree unwrapping the presents on December 15, saying, “C’mon. We’re close enough to the big day.”)
I read the responses to the post about the woman at McDonald’s with some interest. I think it is entirely reasonable (but what do I know) not to enjoy young babies. I hope I don’t feel that way, and I don’t at the moment, but I know there will be times when I may. The excitement I feel at the moment may well be the excitement of someone who doesn’t know what stands before them.
I’m someone who has never liked kids in general, but it really is true when people tell you that you feel differently about your own. And there will be plenty of times when you wonder what possessed you to bring this squawling, shitting, puking ‘thing’ into the world. In the next instant, though, you will probably find yourself absolutely enthralled by the miracle of a finger nail. It’s just the whole rich tapesty of having a kid and you shouldn’t feel bad about feeling every single bit of it. Of course, the day you have to be physically restrained from turfing the kid out a window is a whole other story…
i’m glad that people feel differently about their own babies. i know with other people’s babies i feel completely useless and just want to give them back before i break them.
i’m so excited about the possibility of being enthralled by this new person.
It is different when it is your own child but don’t worry if it doesn’t hit you in an instant. I found with Finn my affection for him had to build and has only kept on building.
Ups and downs are normal. And babies are very demanding, and you’re trying to adjust to everything about your life being different on very little sleep (which I really struggle with).
But everything you feel someone or other you know will understand because they’ve been there. Just keep talking about it ’til you find them
(Also, nice clean look to your site)